[ChristyMcKay]

When I got married 9 years ago, I thought it was time time and all eternity - but he cheated on me. Anyhow, today was a good day. I've closed a chapter of my life and can move on.
I'm excited about this fresh start. I'll be moving in about two weeks so if I'm not online for a while it's because I'm unplugged!!!

[Ro]

Sorry to hear about your hard time. I cannot even imagine what you have been through. My thoughts and prayers will be with you.

It must feel like a big relief to have that struggle you have recently been in over. All the best to you. You deserve to have great, wonderful, shining, happy days now.

I can't wait to hear about them when they DO happen.

Big hug across cyberspace.

[Betsy]

What a wonderful outlook you have! So nice to be able to see a silver lining in every dark cloud - a new chapter of your life is opening before you - grab it tight and hold on!

[varanda]

I got divorced after being married 20 years. I know what you are going through, except though my husband was faithful, he was depressed and drank a lot.

I was both exhilarated and sometimes sad.

It comes in waves, even though it was my choice to leave. I never regretted my decision, but it is still a major life shift and I noticed friends were uncomfortable. It was a death of sorts, but not a tangible one where you get to play the part of the grieving widow with society's support.

Enjoy your move, and your new freedoms. Visit here often for solace! I wish you the very best in your new adventure. Sending you lots of prayers and a big hug!

[ScrappingForever]

Valerie, you described that perfectly! It is a death of sorts, and such an incredible adjustment in one's thinking, when we think we have married forever, and that we couldn't ever contemplate divorce, which is how I was.

I also had people who were uncomfortable with me and my decision, especially since my ex is such a "nice" man. And he is, but he was an awful husband!

Christy, as others have said, your attitude is awesome! Keep smiling and come here if you ever need a pick me up, or if you just want to vent!

[varanda]

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especially since my ex is such a "nice" man. And he is, but he was an awful husband!

My exhusband was nice, too---still is, though I rarely see him anymore. But I still talk about him, he was a crucial part of my life from age 19 to 39.

Thankfully DH has no issues about it---but then he shouldn't----his ex (that he never married but shares a daughter with) is very much in our lives.

[faithfulscrapper]

What a great outlook you have despite what happened. My dh and I are having issues at the moment and I hope that if things go that way for us, that I'll look forward to that fresh start as well. hugs to you!!!

[shaggysmomma]

Christy, there is life after divorce. Keep your optimism because this is the first day of the rest of your life. I've been divorced twice and have now remarried the most wonderful man in the world. I believe everything happens for a reason and I had to go thru my trials so that I would be able to find true love and ACCEPT true love. I don't regret a thing that has happened to get me where I am now. I hope that makes since. Be strong and believe! Hugs to you!

[Angela]

Sorry to hear about that, but I'm glad you're excited about starting over! Have fun!

[JEB]

Christy, Divorce is hard under any circumstances. It's wonderful that you have such a postitive attitude! Good for you! I'll keep you in my prayers.

[Jen N]

Keep you attitude and chin up...life changes all the time...just not always the way we'd like. You'll be in my thoughts.