[bthornton17]

So my Dh tells me today that our orders are on hold until his replacement can be identified. He is also up for rank (his board is in 2 weeks). So if he makes it (won't know until late June) we might go somewhere else.

I have played this game for many years and you would think that I would be used to it by now. BUT UGH!!!! Now my life is back in limbo. We might not even get the orders we are supposed to be getting right now. But he screened and slated for command - so where will they send us? Who knows. I think he is even frustrated because he feels like he has no choice.

And I can't vent where I live because I am overseas and live in a shoebox. At least that is what it feels like. You say something and it gets all twisted and all over base in about 10 minutes. So thank you for listening and letting me vent.

So now I hurry up and wait for who knows how long. And try and make the best of the situation.

[ginaMO]

Vent away Bethany. I was military (Army) for 10 years and a military wife for another 10 after that. I can so relate, and I do feel your frustration.

[catinkeri]

Bethany - I feel for you!! Not only are you constantly moving, but you are moving to where they want to put you, when they want to do it. Their pace, their rules ... you do! The last two preference sheets my husband has put in (he's still active duty - another 7 1/2 years to go until he's got his 20 in!) he hasn't managed to get anyone of his preferences, but what recourse does he have ... none!
Our last PCS was handed to him 10 days before we left, his outprocessing took 7 days of it, our movers arrived two days before we had to leave and so he was outprocessing while I had three children to look after while the movers were there! Aaah, the joys! Oh, and at this end of things, he was training when they were unloading our stuff so he didn't see that end of it either ... I joke to him about how he planned it like that!
I am sure there are many others out there that know what you are going through and have immense amounts of sympathy and empathy with you - I know I do! And I know it's only words, but hang in there! In two weeks he'll be making rank (congratulations!! wahoo!!!) and you can celebrate that with him. Hopefully your orders will follow soon after that and you'll then be able to at least plan a little more than what you can at the moment!!
And you vent away ... hey, even kick one of your walls just to shake up the neighbours ! As for the game of silent whispers within a base/post or wherever you live ... who cares! You know what's going on in your life, they obviously don't and are jealous, hence making up silly comments that have no relevance! Keep smiling and big hugs coming your way.

[jennk]

Bethany, I am sorry for your limbo situation. It stinks to not feel like you are in control of what is ahead. Funny thing is, we all think we are in control but at any moment we can face a situation that just shows us who is really in control. Just know that there is a plan and you will end up right where you need to be. I know it doesn't help to ease the stress but hopefully it can help you relax just a little and let God do his work. Hang in there!

[iwillfly525]

I'm sorry you don't know where you are going or when. I hope your dh passes his board. vent anything you need to.

[CRS]

I say the same thing about the Army, all the time! I think that is one of the hardest parts about military life. Vent away, we're here to listen! I hope you find out soon, and I hope your dh gets his promotion!

[Smiles]

That's one of the nicest things about Scrap Girls - it's a safe place to vent.
Just because we've been through it all before doesn't make it any easier, either, does it!
I try to tell myself there's a reason for this - there's something only you and something only your DH can do in the new location. It doesn't always help, either.
But we're all holding good thoughts for you.
The fact your DH was selected for command says a lot for him.
In the meantime, keep breathing!
We're in your corner!

Gayle

[needadietcoke]

Limbo is a terrible place to be! We've had planty of that in the last couple of years and I hate it too. We are here- and we don't gossip so vent away!

[Shelbi]

That sounds so frustrating!!! I have never been in the situation myself, but I don't think I am cut out for that kind of lifestyle!!!
I hope it all gets sorted out soon.
Vent anytime!!
Michelle

[bthornton17]

Thank you so much ladies. It is nice to be able to get it off my chest - and I didn't have to tell anyone here for rumors to start. It didn't help that he told me the news in an email due to his travel schedule. But he did make it home today - YEAH the jet didn't break!!!

We had a chance to talk today. He was really angry last night but now we are finding the good and the positive. I just hope we can maintain our sanity through it all. We are even thinking of re-asking for our extension until July 09. But right now we are just waiting.

But now we are thinking of coming back to the states for spring break - I need a break and he sees that. Thank goodness spring break here is 2 weeks. And my DS is in Kindergarten and to miss a few days isn't that big of a deal.

Thanks again and i will keep you posted on what happens. Hopefully good news next time.

[PBarnes]

Bethany, I'm sorry for your disappointment. I hope the break back here helps you to deal with. I'm really glad we weren't a military family. We see a lot of them go through our church and I can't imagine the moving all the time.

[Sarah in VA]

Bethany,

I know this is late- I've been away from the MB - travelling all day yesterday and no internet connection at home the day before that! So, I've just read the latest of your moving plans. I'm so sorry things have been changed once again. But very happy you'll be getting a break. After that, I'm sure everything will be looking better for you and your family.

Vent all you want. We all need to do that occasionally!

[debilou]

Bethany, I really feel for you. I wasn't an officer's wife, but an enlisted Navy wife, and I know the feeling. You just never know.. Start to get ready don't, you don't know... It's so hard on the wives, the husbands, the kids, I will be praying that you will find out soon...

[sfcgijill]

hahahahahahahahaha-- I'm not laughing at you, I swear I'm laughing with you (go ahead and laugh- you will sooner or later, I am sure)- I've been in the Army 24 years, my Dad was career military also, and YES "Hurry Up and Wait" is the universal military slogan! That, and SNAFU. I can soooo identify with your situation, having been there a time or two or twenty.

I hope everything works out ok for you sooner rather than later (it usually does, it just takes a while- have patience!). The trick is, waiting long enough for the light at the end of the tunnel. And then getting out of the way of the train. And then, finally, getting out of the tunnel.

Hugs, and prayers to you. You are not alone, and it isn't just your family that's going through this. We're all pulling for you.

[GrandmaSarge]

bthornton17, on Feb 27 2008, 05:51 AM, said:

So my Dh tells me today that our orders are on hold until his replacement can be identified. He is also up for rank (his board is in 2 weeks). So if he makes it (won't know until late June) we might go somewhere else.

I have played this game for many years and you would think that I would be used to it by now. BUT UGH!!!! Now my life is back in limbo. We might not even get the orders we are supposed to be getting right now. But he screened and slated for command - so where will they send us? Who knows. I think he is even frustrated because he feels like he has no choice.

And I can't vent where I live because I am overseas and live in a shoebox. At least that is what it feels like. You say something and it gets all twisted and all over base in about 10 minutes. So thank you for listening and letting me vent.

So now I hurry up and wait for who knows how long. And try and make the best of the situation.

I did the Navy wife for 15 1/2 years..am now divorced..but I loved every min of it. Living in foreign countries..Guam counts as foreign..wa a challange but it was lots of fun too. I have also done 20 years of service to the US Navy myself..(most of it as Navy Reserve after the divorce) and that was stressfull at times being a single mother but the girls were pretty responsible. The Navy's Slogan..(unoficially)..is Hurry Up and Wait. The one for the wives..(unoficially) is only 2 good duty stations.one you're at and the one you're going to!

I had my third and last child..(beautiful girl)..on Midway Island..where there aren't cars for the local populace..(no one lives tere now except for all those birds)..and rode a bicycle to the dispensary to have baby by myself..husband in softball tournament against one of the other divisions. This one was my favorite duty station!!

My idea of moving to a new duty station was..I get a whole new wardrobe without spending a dime..those ladies aven't seen any of my clothes before! Wow, now I can wear my favorites again!