[sunnie2004]

Everyone here knows how much my grandaughter means to me & my hubbie by now. I am so furious with her mum...I get this phone call just now not to pick her up at the bus stop coz they are going to the river & my weekend gets blown off again. Everytime it is our weekend we get sorry we have plans. I am so close to going to a an attorney & filing for my grandparents rights right this second & when this happens I can say neener neener you can't I have a paper that says I get her this day & I am taking her.

I am sorry needed to get this off my chest I am besides my self with tears & want to go to her mothers house & smak her. dump on Caren & Pat they don't care ..


Ok I am off to cry & sorry to vent & be mean.

Caren

[sweetaudrey]

How sad I am to see that my Swap Partner is having a bad day! Sorry to hear that you get the butt end of everything when it comes to you grandbabies! I think you need to do what your heart tells you, and take control of the situation! Good Luck...keep me posted. Will message you later...

[ginaMO]

Hey Caren, vent all you want. It is hard to have planned to have her and then have those plans snatched away. You want and need to be part of your granddaughter's life.

[MaryJo]

Oh Caren, I am so sorry to hear this news ! On all weekends too ! I know you're angry and hurt right now and I'm really glad you were able to verbalize it to us . I know it doesn't make you feel better, but we love ya, and we care for you. I'm still praying that someday this will all get worked out for the best for everyone !

[Peppi]

I'm so sorry for you Caren

[MelJohnson]

I'm so sorry you're going through this, Caren. I hope you can squeeze in some time with your granddaughter somehow this weekend. Big hugs to you.

[PurpleJAF]

Caren:

Must be frustrating. I'm so sorry t hear you are going through this rought time, right now. I'll say a prayer that things get better in this situation. Must be so frustrating.

[Sarah in VA]

Gosh, Caren - I'm so sorry this has happened to you, AGAIN! And I know exactly how you feel - we've been there. I wish I could give you a solution, but there really isn't any, except the distasteful one of trying to maintain a somewhat civil relationship with her parents, so that you CAN keep your foot in the door.

So you just go ahead and vent all you want to, but to us...please don't say angry words you will not be able to defend or retract. And hopefully, the next time you have plans everything will go smoothly for you.

The best thing you can do is to make absolutely sure that your granddaughter sees you and your DH acting like responsible, compassionate adults with HER best interests at heart, and to make sure every minute she spends with you is quality time.

Go ahead and write that paper yourself, the one giving you full authority and visitation privileges. This will help you deal with this anger today. And remember, living well is the best revenge!

[Burnsie]

Sorry, Caren. I hope you can work things out. You deserve to see your grandkids.

[Laurel Lakey]

Caren, I'm so sorry to hear this. What a crummy situation. I'll say a little prayer for you for comfort.

[sunnie2004]

Thanks ladies ...much appreciated

I did leave a message to my grandaughters mother phone that i was sorry i cut her off short & hung up & i really didnt mean it there is just only so much that we can handle & it seems that our weekend just dont matter to everyone. Told her to call me back which she wont & I did say i was sorry it was better than being really mean & saying what i really wanted to.

Thanks for listening to my rant

Huugs ladies

Caren

[DDecker]

Oh Caren I am so sorry, I know how much that little girl means to you! Vent to us so you can be nice to her mom.

[needadietcoke]

I am so sorry that your plans were dashed again. It is unfair for you to not get to see her and unfair for her to not see you. I wish my kids had grandparents to visit- she should be thankful for your presence in her daughter's life!

[sheriL]

Oh Caren, that's so sad. I just hope your granddaughters family can come to an understanding of how important grandparents are, and how lucky they are to have grandparents close by so their daughter can enjoy those wonderful bonds.

[HisThao]

I'm so sorry you have to go through this, Caren. I hope that your granddaughter knows that you and her family love her and will try to deal with this situation as best as possible for her sake. I hope you get to see her soon!

[Jo Corne]

oh sweet Caren, you SO don not deserve this. I wish I had the words for you dear friend, but know that I am thinking of you and sending you so much love and prayers that your GD's mother comes around.

thinking of you this weekend

[ruralscrapper]

Oh Caren, my dear friend. I thought all this misery for you was over. I sure hope that somehow this situation can somehow work itself out with out the attorney's! I'm saying a prayer for you GF and thinking of you. {{hugs}}

[sthrnbelle05]

I don't know the whole situation, but I'm terribly sorry your granddaughter's mother keeps taking away your set time with your granddaughter. Too many times people don't think of how their actions and decisions will affect others, and rarely ever think to actually explain why they're doing what they do and/or try and change that behavior. I'll be praying her mother has a change of heart.

[CRS]

I am so sorry, Caren. I can't imagine how hard this is on you and your dh. I know how much your granddaughter means to you. Just know that I'll be praying for you and thinking of you!

[podiumchick]

Hugs to you Caren! How painful to have your time taken away and not considered worth anything to you or your granddaughter. Vent away to us so you'll be free to be kind and loving to your granddaughter's mother. That's what friends are for!

[amanda]

I'm sorry you're feeling so hurt and dumped on, I hope you can spend some special time with her soon and that will make up for the hurt.

[jennk]

Sorry for your situation Caren. Your granddaughter is lucky to have someone who cares so much about her. It is good that you are at least able to come here and vent away. Here's hoping that things improve!

[BethLang]

Caren, I am a new mom and am realizing that time with my DD is so important to her grandma and grandpa. I am reading your story from a different perspective and seeing how this makes you feel, I realized I don't want my in laws to ever feel like that, so I am making more of an effort to be more willing to let DD go to grandma and grandpas's house on a regular basis and NOT make other plans. Not that I have been, but your situation made me sit back and think about it differently.
Hugs to you, and I hope you see them soon!!!

[Shelbi]

Caren,
This makes me so sad. I wish my kids Grandparents wanted to spend time with my kids (ok, to be fair some of their grandparents DO and some do NOT).
I hope for you and for your grand-daughters sake that you get to spend some time with her.
Also, glad you were able to vent in a safe and happy place.
Michelle

[sunnie2004]

Wow Thanks ladies so much for the kind thoughts. This morning I am doing better about it & I know in my heart Bell knows Grammie & Pap Pap love her more than life & some day she will have designated time with us. I just keep telling my self patience Caren be patient rember good things come to those who wait. I can wait & will wait & someday we will have our time.

((((((((((((HUggs)))))))))))) to all of you & thanks so much
Caren

[sheilaj]

Caren, my favourite Dalai Lama quote is when someone asked him who had been his greatest teacher. He smiled and said "Mao Tse Tung."
The interviewer was a bit taken aback by this and asked what Chairman Mao could have taught such a learned and reverend man.
With an ever bigger smile he said "Patience."

[Sarah in VA]

BethLang, on May 8 2008, 09:39 PM, said:

Caren, I am a new mom and am realizing that time with my DD is so important to her grandma and grandpa. I am reading your story from a different perspective and seeing how this makes you feel, I realized I don't want my in laws to ever feel like that, so I am making more of an effort to be more willing to let DD go to grandma and grandpas's house on a regular basis and NOT make other plans. Not that I have been, but your situation made me sit back and think about it differently.
Hugs to you, and I hope you see them soon!!!

Beth,

You rock! That's the sweetest thing to say - music to a grandparent's ears - and heart! Your parents, and parents-in-law are so very lucky to have such a generous daughter!

[nicole_j]

sounds frustrating Caren... sorry they aren't being more considerate of your feelings. Hopefully they will be kinder soon.

[sunnie2004]

Nicole they have no choice soon I am gonna be a part of Bells world nothing & I mean nothing is gonna stop me & hubbie from loving this little one & her knowing this!! We will win Bell & us & perserverance will succeed. (sp) LOL

I have patience & I will win hehehehehehehehe

I am of course older & wiser & there is always more than 1 way to skin a cat so to speak lol

Caren

Thanks girls!!

[jeschaff]

Hi Caren, I missed this thread yesterday. I'm so sorry you're having to go through this. Some of my most treasured memories involve my time with my grandparents, and one of my greatest regrets is that my own kids have never had much grandparent time. So I don't understand how your GD's mom would deny her the visits with you.

I'll be praying for a change of heart for her, and for patience for you and your husband.