Need Some Advise How did we lose contact with our kids?
Posted 22 June 2008 - 02:12 AM
thanks for listening.
Posted 22 June 2008 - 06:12 AM
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Posted 22 June 2008 - 06:16 AM
Posted 22 June 2008 - 07:06 AM
Posted 22 June 2008 - 02:54 PM
I totally understand the concern regarding the internet relationship, when we first learned of this we were devastated. We pondered back and forth what to do. We did go to the police and have them do a background check on this young man and all that we had learned was that he was as he said. He is about 2 years older than our daughter. They talk to each other constanly. I am not surprised that he has not made an attempt to come here to meet her as we have now known about this relationship for about a year. I am surprised that she has placed such a faith in this relationship. I pray that God will give us all strength to see/help her through this relationship, to be able to provide her the strength/understanding that she will need. Thank you all for your support, I so appreciate it.
Posted 23 June 2008 - 09:49 AM
Posted 08 August 2008 - 06:59 PM
So, I give him lots of space and I just let him know that I'm here if he needs to talk and I promise him I won't be judgmental, unless he's broken a law or hurt someone. And its working, he comes to me more often now and its still hard for him, but he's learning to open up with both myself and DH !
I don't know what to say about the internet except we keep a very close eye on where they are on the internet and who they are communicating with. Some of them have myspace and I created an account to check on them and see what's going on! Plus, I check the history on the desktop to see who's gone where!
I think they'll come around especially when something happens and they need Mom and Dad, then you can discuss just what is going on ! If the one who's had an internet affair is under age, you could always pull a power move and take away the internet. I don't know if that would work or just make her more distant from you !
But, I am glad you were able to share with us and vent , it always helps to share esp. when its breaking your heart ! I'll be praying for all of you !
Posted 08 August 2008 - 08:56 PM
you will be in my thoughts
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Posted 08 August 2008 - 09:24 PM
I will say some prayers for you and your family and with everyone else, lots of hugs.
Posted 09 August 2008 - 05:21 AM
Posted 21 August 2008 - 06:07 PM
I am not so young, but I clearly remember those times in my life. All I ever really wanted was for my mother to listen and not talk too. Our advise seems outdated and intrusive, but they still need to get it off thier chest. Try letting them know, unless they are puting themselves or others in harms way, they can tell you ANYTHING and it will stay with you. If they want advise, ask, if they just want to talk, just say so.
Knowing you are there and interested is really all they want at those ages.
Good Luck and loves of Mommy Hugs from me to you!
Posted 19 September 2008 - 03:59 PM
There are days when I would just like to find a padded room and sit down in it and scream at the top of my lungs. My problem is that I have no temper, I don't like confrontation and I am a Mommy through and through. I don't know how to be anything else. I had my first baby a month after my 18th birthday and I was absolutely in my element, so, we had more and when that wasn't enough, we became a foster family and we have had over 30 children in our home over the years. My 18 year old came to us at three weeks old and we just fell in love with him and were thrilled when we found out that he was going to be put up for adoption because we knew that our hearts would never let us give him back.
But there were and are problems - too many to even go into - and all I ask for is a little respect and for him to clean up behind himself. I can live with the rest of his problems because I know he can't help some of them. He has been diagnosed as bi-polar, crack baby, fetal alcohol syndrome and a little Asperbergers. But I know that God didn't give me more than he thought I could handle and so that is how I try and look at it.
So, hang in there - one day, I hope, that mine will look at me and say, "Hey Mom - you were right."