Looking For Book Suggestions, Please! For my 10 year old stepDD
Posted 09 July 2009 - 04:53 AM
My step-daughter is 10. She's turned this corner where she thinks that if she brags that she's better or has more than others that she will gain friends, even to the point where's she's lying to make herself sound better. She pushes herself to center-stage, often at the cost of others' feelings.
And try as I might, I cannot seem to get through to her. It's just so hard to watch this daily, especially as she interacts with her siblings. And doubly, because my youngest daughters mimic this behavior, as they look up to their older sister. Compounding this, I've tried talking to her mother, who's a close friend. But her mom doesn't see anything wrong with the behavior (thinks it's "just a stage"), so it doesn't get corrected unless she's in our home.
So I'm going to try something new, but I need some help. She loves to read. She's slightly above the "going into 5th grade" reading level.
I'm looking for books about girls her age or slightly older that learn the lessons that bragging won't win you friends and such. That having something someone else doesn't have doesn't make you better than they are. Kind of a "moral of the story" type book.
Posted 09 July 2009 - 06:23 AM
In the meantime I think you are doing the right thing by trying to correct it, it's not a stage or phase it could be very painful for everyone if she doesn't learn to be more humble.
What about the Chicken Soup Series? They have some great books and are short stories so faster to read. It could start some great discussions for the family.
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Posted 09 July 2009 - 06:36 AM
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Posted 09 July 2009 - 07:31 AM
And Sandi, she's re-reading an AG book right now. I'll have to do some research and see if one of those fits the moral I want to teach her!
Posted 09 July 2009 - 09:08 AM
Even Harry Potter has some of these themes running through them (especially the first one). Hermione has some trouble with this and has a hard time making friends because of it and the other characters that have this character trait are the "villains". Hopefully she doesn't want to be a villain.
Good luck! I'll try to think on this some more...
Posted 09 July 2009 - 10:22 AM
Posted 09 July 2009 - 12:03 PM
Sorry I have no sugguestions
I'd say we did!!
I hope you find the right book and get this bad behaviour corrected soon.
A good book for you is Barbra Colerosso( spelling might be wrong) She is a great parenting Guru I look back at my book all the time. She talkes about how to talk to kids what to change or let society change for her... like wearing PJ's to school.
Posted 17 October 2009 - 11:42 AM
There must be a fantasy book with a hero who overstates their abilities and then has to cope with the consequences but I am going totally blank.
... Forest Witcraft
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Posted 17 October 2009 - 01:15 PM