About Private Communications With Other Members

The Terms of Use document has just been updated with the following information:

Our message board is equipped with a private messaging system. Should you desire or need to communicate privately with another member or moderator, please use the PM system to do so. (You can access the PM system through the drop-down menu up in the top right-hand corner of the board.)

The advantages of using the PM system is that you can put a block on members that you do not wish to exchange messages with and you can easily provide our moderators with copies of problematic private messages. This will allow our moderators to determine if a member requires discipline for the message that has caused concern. (Potential discipline methods include warnings, removal of the ability to send private messages, or total banning from the website.)

We encourage you not to exchange private email addresses with other members. If you exchange private email addresses, do so with the understanding that Scrap Girls can not and will not discipline a member for their off-site communications or behavior.

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As a reminder - this is the first part of our Terms of Use:

Before we get started with the rules and regulations, let us say one very important thing: "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you."

If you remember this statement, you’ll know everything there is to know about how to get along here at Scrap Girls. We work hard to make a safe place for our members. Our members care about each other, pray for each other, and do good things for each other because they are good people.

As Ro's grandma used to say, "Be kind. Be kind." Our members are kind people. If you come to Scrap Girls with kind intentions, you will be happy here.

If you understand this section of our Terms of Use and live it in all aspects of your lives, you will find that you will be happier, will have better relationships, and will find more peace in your daily lives. If someone chooses not to live that way, you can choose to respond back to them kindly and then (if necessary) part ways with them.

If individuals choose not to behave according to our Terms of Use and behave unkindly or inappropriately in our forum, our gallery, our chat rooms, our blogs, and our private messaging system, the preferred method of handling it is to contact our Moderators as they have methods of resolving the situation.

A less effective method of managing difficulties with other members it is to go off and talk about the individual with your friends. Not only do your friends not have the ability to do something about the problematic member, gossiping leads to disharmony on our website and in all aspects of our lives. If we are honest with ourselves, I believe that most people will have to admit that sometimes, we have chosen to manage things in this way. If we are honest with ourselves, we will also understand that this course of action did not make us feel better (about the person and ourselves) and did not solve the problem. Indeed, gossiping and backbiting often compounds the problem.

Scrap Girls guiding principles are these: To be kind to others, to have respect for others, to serve others, and to have hope that good things will happen.

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I love each of you. I pray for you. I love to know you and you add much to my life. I learn from you, laugh with you, smile with you, and find joy from knowing you.

I pray that each of us will work diligently to keep our happy purple place happy.

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